About javawithjill

I am a mommy to 4 kiddos (three very macho sons & a very girly, little girl) & wife to a super guy for over 18 years. Raised in Kansas, I now reside in Missouri, where we are active in our church, school & nearly every sport a kid can possibly play. Somehow at the end of the day it all works out, and the sun always comes up the next morning. I love to cook, create, design & sing, sing, sing.

Ten Important Truths To Remember for Boy Mama’s

Those who know me, know my house is filled with boys, well sort of.  Three boys, all born in a grand total of 34 months.  Now, one-hundred and eighty-three months later, I’ve learned some interesting things.  Some helpful, some funny, some heartwarming…but all interesting! I wish I had known these little gems all along, on this journey of raising boys. But in life, you learn things as you go…So here’s my little take on this life God has called me to.

1. Loud is OK.

2. They are going to fight, but they still love each-other.

3. They are going to embarrass you once in a while, take a chill pill-just laugh!

4. They will always, I mean ALWAYS, need their Mama!

5. You’ve never failed so badly that tomorrow can’t be a fresh start-Tomorrow is always a fresh start!

6. You’re not raising pansies!  Buck up!

7. Clorox will make it like it never. even. happened.

8. AXE bodywash and shampoo can cover up almost anything…

9. Scentsy and Febreeze are gifts from Jesus Himself!

10. You CAN do this!brothers black and white

 

A Commitment to the Community-Excel Youth Gets Their Own Youth Center

IMG_1385Being part of a church that is passionate about reaching the lost in our community is a tremendous blessing to our family.  Typically, I write about my family or my decorating endeavors, but I wanted to share EXCEL youth group’s  building renovation.  I know that many of my readers are looking to make a difference in their church and community, so I thought you would enjoy this.  Word of Life Church (www.wordoflifemarionville.tv) recently expanded to include a youth facility.  A team of hard-working volunteers completely remodeled an empty  building in just fourteen days! Those fourteen days were a complete whirl-wind, but the result is fabulous and is already making a difference in our small town.  Roughly fifteen volunteers spent incredibly long hours laying carpet, painting, wiring the sound system,  decorating, scrubbing, cleaning, constructing, etc.  Can we say, “tons of fast food” and “what is a bed?”.  Joking aside, the entire endeavor has made a difference for the teens in our community. Being a store-front church (we are located in a shopping center with the ONLY grocery store in town), this beautiful new youth center is visible to every person who lives in this town, every time they go to buy groceries.  EXCEL youth group celebrated the grand opening of their new facility with a local band, Seeds of Agape. The grand opening night was a huge success, and the building was full!  IMG_1416We were able to create over-sized art by painting over old church signage and banners.  It was a great way to create relevant art for a fraction of the typical cost.  pic 1The back wall of the stage is actually galvanized metal panels-a very easy find at any home-improvement store.

IMG_1410We used metal repair tape to mimic the X in our new EXCEL youth logo.  It requires precision and measuring, but it is a very easy and inexpensive way to add great detail to a space.

IMG_1411IMG_1387We are fortunate to have a graphic designer and photographer in our church, who made us a new logo and helped with printing promotional materials for the Grand Opening.
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IMG_1414IMG_1385The church was very supportive of EXCEL youth group, and many items were donated to this project.  The donated items include: the carpet, computer, game systems,the cost of the chairs and the sound system (donated by a church).
IMG_1394This is my favorite view-the view from the outside.  Every car that pulls up to the local grocery store, everyone who walks by on their way to the neighboring apartment complex, is able to see this fun and safe place for local youth to gather.  Far more than fun and games will be happening in this building-the truth of God’s Word will penetrate hearts and shape futures!  Thanks Word of Life Church for believing in the youth of our community!
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DIY Wedding Reception Decor

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My lovely friend recently got married, and I was privileged to coordinate the decorations for the reception.  The funny part of this story is that I wasn’t fully aware I was doing all of the decorations until 2&1/2 weeks before the ceremony!  Panic ensued, followed by many deep breaths…and then a plan.  The reception was in a church multi-purpose gymnasium, so I knew it was a huge and not-so-beautiful space to begin with.  I thought I would share how we pulled it all together for roughly $60!  That’s right-$60 for table coverings, decor, centerpieces, candles, banners, etc. It came together quickly and it was absolutely beautiful.

Centerpiece  Each centerpiece had six tissue poms hung  from twigs and they were stabilized in antique, quart-sized jars.

centerpiece close-up   Small hearts were cut out of the pages of an old book, and hung with twine.  The hearts added just the right finishing touch to the centerpieces.centerpiece jarcenterpiece with jars I used clear and teal pint sized jars, wrapping them with scrap-book paper.  I cut hearts out of the paper.  "floating candle" jars A small amount of water was placed in the jars, and  floating candles were added to the jars.  The heart cut-outs were lovely, allowing the candles to softly glow.jar closeup I made three buntings with scrap-book paper and old book pages.bunting for the gift tableI layered the different papers and book pages, and then wove the ribbon through holes in the top of the bunting.
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The bunting for the Bride and Groom’s table was stenciled with “Mr. & Mrs.”

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reception My friend was so beautiful!  I just had to have a quick pic taken of us!

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Speaking Truth & Speaking it With Love

It’s been a busy spring at our home, so my blog has been a bit quiet (reflecting the HUGE truth that my home and family have NOT been quiet).  But I have been so moved by a story in the big bad world of reality, that I’ve come out of my little “mom hibernation” to share an inspirational story with you.

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Have you seen these guys?  If you have turned on the t.v. today, searched the web, snuck in a little facebook time, or even read the news, you probably couldn’t miss them.  Until late last night, I’d never heard of them.  Their public name is “The Benham Brothers”, David and Jason Benham.  They are twin brothers, who were getting ready to debut a new show on HGTV.  I am a huge HGTV watcher.  I’ve been tuning into pretty much everything they produce for 17 years!  I’m sure I would have loved their show… But apparently that won’t be happening.  It turns out that being real-estate/property flippers is pretty far down on the list of who they actually are.  The brothers are Christians, family men, Christian speakers……and somewhere down the line comes the property flipper/well-known guys on tv.   Back in 2012 one of the brothers led a prayer rally during the presidential elections.  He was appealing to Christians to stand for what was right in America.  Some of his remarks are now being spread, out-side of the context of the prayer rally, and it was offensive to some…so now fast-forward to early May 2014.  Their show has been cancelled.

But it’s not the cancellation of their show that’s on my heart this morning, it’s what they have done and said AFTER their show was cancelled.  I watched footage of their CNN interview, and let me tell you -I’M A FAN!  Talk about love-these guys exemplify it!  It would be hard to have the attitude they had-complete kindness for HGTV.  They said they have NO hard feelings for HGTV, no hard feelings toward anyone.  Kindness. Forgiveness. Love for their fellow man-it was ALL there!  Yes, they took their stands.  Yes, they preached the truth in the proper confines of a prayer meeting in 2012. Yes, they still stand for truth, but it is kindness and love that is spilling from them.  Wow!  This quote really hit me, “If our faith costs us a television show, then so be it”.  And that’s not all…they are going to keep their commitment to the 6 families that they had committed to help through their show.  Now remember, the show is cancelled, so it’s now their own money & time that they will be using to keep that commitment.

I’m so encouraged this morning by the honor, integrity, and strength to stand in love that has been exemplified by this story.  I hope to hear more from these two.  In fact, I’d love to be able to watch their show, but if not-I’ve been encouraged to stand in the love of Christ.  Christ laid down his life for the lost.  He could tell us, first hand, that the lost don’t always respond kindly, and that there is sometimes a high price to pay for standing.

I would encourage you to support the Benham Brothers by contacting HGTV.  You can do so on this link: http://www.hgtv.com/contact-us/package/index.html  But please, please, please do it in love, and with a kind heart & kind words.  Truth must always be accompanied by LOVE & love is patient, love is kind…it does not dishonor others…it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs…it always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres… (ICor.13)

Here’s to hoping that your day is filled with Truth and Love!

Want to see more of these guys & their great message?  Go to this link & watch…

DIY: The Last Minute Bunting

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This past weekend my little girl celebrated her birthday with her friends.  Her theme was friendship & hearts.  I threw together this cute little bunting in a matter of minutes, using scrap-book paper and hearts that I cut from the pages of an old book.  It turned out delightfully cute, so I thought I would share it with you!  It can be done in any color scheme or shape, so I hope you enjoy experimenting!  Please share with me your results-I would love to see what you come up with!

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This cute little heart bunting was the perfect back-drop for the party, and we are going to use it over her window treatment in her room-because it was too cute to toss!

Smile! You are “God’s Girl”!

God's GirlSomewhere around age five, most little girls are full of giddy smiles, immense confidence, and big dreams…but by the time we reach twenty-five, the smiles have faded, our confidence has dropped and dreams have been replaced with a huge dose of reality.    It’s sad but true.  Is it that our expectations were just too big?  Is it that our society is full of lies about what’s real?  Or are we being unfair in our criticism of ourselves? Well, it’s probably a combination of all of the above.  Here’s what I’ve been finding, as I talk with my godly girl-friends…

Life has thrown us a few curve balls.  We thought we would grow up to be “better”, look “cuter”, be “happier”, have more “perfect” husbands, have more “well behaved” children… and the list goes on..and on…

Guess what?!?!  God’s plan for you was never about YOU being Perfect!  God’s plan for you has always been about CHRIST shining THROUGH you.  I can never be a good enough wife or mom on my own.  You can never do it on your own either…we have to look to the LORD for strength.  It’s time to let up on our harsh self-judgments…the incessant self-doubt and criticism.  YOU & I are God’s Girls!  He sees you as a work of art (in progress).  Be encouraged today & know that you are HIS, and you are enough…pretty enough…strong enough…good enough-through HIM who made you!

Be strong today…Be a God Girl!

My Sweet Valentines…

Well, it rolled around quickly, the last year our youngest son will distribute Valentines or make a Valentine box..sniff, sniff. So bring on the crazy Mommy! Payton picked out the Army theme, and we found great printables off of Pinterest. Then I rounded up a small green army, found camo fabric for the box, raided the mostly quiet-these-days toy chest & this Mama went to work. The result is a super happy  boy! Next year he will be one of those grown up middle school boys-but today he is still my little boy. And then there is the sweet little sister-no worries-many more Valentine parties ahead for sweet little Delaney! “Wild About You” is the theme we went with, and we found the cutest little printable Valentines on Pinterest. We completed those little babies with “wild” animals & a lovely, sparkly, pink, wild Valentine box. It really helps to have all of those hair-bow supplies at a time like this!

So here’s the result…so much cuteness!
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Notice that Delaney dressed in her “wild” theme as well..Mommy & daughter really get into their themes!delaneys box 2

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Here’s a link to the blog that is offering this super cute FREE printable:

http://www.sarahmstyle.ca/2014/01/freebies-i-am-wild-about-you-valentine.html

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My littlest man!
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Here’s a link to the blog that is offering this adorable FREE printable:

http://eventstocelebrate.net/2014/01/free-printable-valentine-army/

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…Your Hand Will Guide Me…

HandofGod2“The hand of GOD”, that is the title  various news organizations are giving this amazing sight.  And who can argue that this beautiful formation from a NASA telescope, just a few short days ago, looks exactly like a hand extending from an arm?  It all came from a star that exploded and then expelled debris… Psalm 8:3 “When I look at the night sky and see the work of Your fingers…the moon and the stars YOU set in place…”

I just love this picture.  My heart is so touched to see our amazing, all powerful GOD of the universe remind us of HIS presence through a NASA telescope picture of the stars.  Psalm 139:8-12a “…If I go up to Heaven, You are there; If I go down to the grave, You are there. If I ride the wings of the morning, if I dwell by the farthest oceans, even there YOUR HAND WILL GUIDE ME, and Your strength will support me.  I could ask the darkness to hide me, and the light around me to become night-but even in darkness, I cannot hide from You. To You the NIGHT SHINES AS BRIGHT AS DAY.”  

If you are discouraged, look up and know that the GOD of the universe is speaking to you…Isaiah 41:10 “Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your GOD. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my VICTORIOUS RIGHT HAND.”

It’s not very often that we are given a physical glimpse of God’s glory and presence.  Be encouraged today, and let HIS hand guide you!

hand of GODphoto: NASA/JPL-Caltech/McGill

Sources: MSN/ HLN/ Huff Post/NASA

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Two Ministry Approaches-One Ministry Goal

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I can just envision Paul and Peter, if they were here today, ministering to their communities in very different ways.  I can just see Peter, all dressed in a suit with shiny shoes, leading some beautiful hymns, with a well orchestrated service where nothing is done out of order. No rules broken.  No traditions changed.  Sitting only in pews.  Singing only Hymns…yes, that’s how I see Peter.  Absolutely he would be reaching the lost!  Absolutely he would be preaching the truth, but Tradition only…PERIOD!

And then there’s Paul, probably in a pair of jeans, a little unshaven, maybe a tattoo or two hiding (or not) on his arm or chest. He would probably have a “rocking loud” worship band-worship that would go on and on. And rules  would.  be.  broken. I can just imaging Paul topping most of the new non-traditional Pastors, with incredible “out of the box” ideas to bring in the lost.  Very, very, very lost and broken people.  But once they were in, Paul would reach them with the Gospel of Jesus Christ.  And REAL CHANGE would come forth…

Ok, so I’ve obviously taken a very large amount of “creative liberty” in summarizing these two men and their ministry, but take a look with me at Galatians 2…

Galatians chapter two paints a pretty interesting picture.  Paul, who had recently come to a saving knowledge of Jesus Christ was “on fire” to share the Gospel.  He had a tarnished past, he had a heart for the “pagans” who were blind to the things of God, and he had a fresh perspective of how to reach them.  Nothing could stop him-nothing that is, except for the established church leaders, James and Peter.  Now wait a minute!  James and Peter? These men were also aflame to share the Gospel!  These men also knew what it was to be persecuted for sharing God’s word, so why on earth would they be standing in Paul’s way?

Paul is clear in his stand, and he boldly stood up to them, “When Peter came to Antioch, I opposed him to his face…”(2:11)  Paul was reaching the Gentiles, people who were not of the Jewish blood-line.  God had extended his gift of grace and mercy on ALL people, and Paul was diligently working to reach them with the gospel of Christ.  Romans 15:16 God called me…”to be a minister of Christ Jesus to the Gentiles with the priestly duty of proclaiming the gospel of God, so that the Gentiles might become an offering acceptable to God, sanctified by the Holy Spirit.”  Clearly, he did not just want to CONVERT them, but he wanted to CHANGE them with the power of the Holy Spirit.

But Paul came into deep criticism.  Why, you ask?  Well, Paul broke TRADITION. Circumcision,once required by the law, was now (thanks to Jesus sacrifice on the cross) only a tradition.  Paul called out the leaders for this legalism, and he began to bring in very broken people.  This was disturbing to the church establishment.  Paul accused Peter, in Galatians 2:12, of not wanting to be seen with the Gentiles and new converts.  Pretty harsh, but it’s definitely a reflection of Paul’s burning desire to reach those who were as broken and lost as he himself had once been.

So who was wrong?  Who was right?  Well, first we Have to admit that everyone involved in this interesting little “spat” loved God with all of their heart.  They were ALL intending to give God only their best.  They were ALL wanting to reach the lost.  Eventually, the established church would begin to feel comfortable walking in this new-found grace.  It would take a while.  And perhaps Paul was a little harsh with these men who had faithfully walked beside Jesus for so long.  Two persepectives-One goal.  It would take a while to see it that way, and yes, personal growth and understanding would eventually follow.  Paul was correct that they were cleansed by the blood of Jesus and not by their own actions of holding to what was, at this point, only a tradition.  All of these brave men, preached the Gospel with no thought for their own safety or personal gain.  History tells us that all of the men involved were eventually put to death for their faith.

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So here we are today-still so many controversies over worship styles, still so many controversies over church methodology, still so many controversies over evangelistic tactics…but only ONE GOAL.  So much can be learned from these two amazing men of God, Paul and Peter.  And if you think about it, they are worshiping together now, in one place!

ONE goal, ONE truth, ONE amazing GOD, -that’s pretty much all that matters!

Making A (quick & easy) Delicious Cup of Chai Tea

closeup chai teaA chilly fall evening…the perfect occasion for a delicious cup of Chai Tea…but I’ve found that chai tea mixes are quite pricey!  So I recently went on a hunt (Pinterest style…) for a recipe for chai tea mixes, and I found that most of the mixes required an extensive list of ingredients…most of which most of us don’t keep on hand.  I deducted that it would likely be just as cost-effective to buy the expensive mix!  So I set off on a mission to use what I had on hand (only 6 ingredients!!) and make a cup for myself.  The results…Delicious!

Here’s my recipe:

one tea bag, one cup of water, 3/4 cup of milk, 1tsp. cinnamon, 1 Tbs. sugar, and 1&1/2 Tbs liquid flavored coffee creamer (vanilla, caramel,cinnamon flavored etc.  It’s really up to you…most good flavored coffee creamers would work perfectly!)

Directions: Place tea bag in one cup hot water & brew a “strong” cup of tea.  Add the cinnamon and sugar to the hot water and stir vigorously!  This step is important, because you want to fully dissolve the cinnamon in the hot water. Add the milk and creamer.  Stir once again, and heat to desired temperature.  Stir vigorously once again…

Enjoy your perfect cup of inexpensive Chai Tea!